Understanding what happened, before moving on
This page is for people going through the aftermath of a breakup who want more clarity before moving forward.
The situation, named precisely
A relationship has just ended. Before turning the page, you may want to understand what happened — not necessarily to go back, but to move forward with more clarity.
This desire to understand can coexist with relief, sadness, or both at once.
What is actually going on
The aftermath of a breakup is often when signals that accumulated during the relationship become more visible, with a bit of distance.
It can involve a gap between how the relationship was perceived and what it looked like from the outside (perception gap), an attachment profile that shaped the dynamic of closeness and distance (attachment security), or risk patterns worth identifying before a next relationship (risk patterns).
What an instrument like the RDP can and cannot do here
After a breakup, the RDP is not meant to establish who was right or what should have happened differently.
It can map the 9 dimensions of the relational profile, make the gap between self-perception and the psychometric measure explicit, and offer a roadmap of priorities.
It cannot decide for you, make a diagnosis, or predict the future of a relationship. Its doctrine is explicit: "do what YOU judge healthiest for you, those around you, and your future."
When to consult a professional rather than a questionnaire
In the face of acute distress, a situation of violence, or dark thoughts, a human professional always comes before a questionnaire — however precise it may be. In that case, the right move is to contact that help right away.
In France: 3114 for suicide prevention, 3919 — Violences Femmes Info (women experiencing violence and witnesses). Outside France, local emergency services should be contacted.
Help numbers appear in every report. A “Need help right now?” link, always visible, shows the help lines first and hides every offer for the rest of the visit: it is your choice: it stays on your device for the length of the visit and is not sent to anyone. When in doubt, the instrument steps aside for the human.